Tuesday 14 February 2012

Love Is Forever, Not Just For Valentines Day

So, it's that one day of the year, when there's romance all around, couples are treating each other to extravagant gifts, admirers are telling the objects of their affection how they feel and then there's others who just absolutely cringe at the thought of Valentines Day.

There are so many different emotions and feelings that are felt and experienced over this one day. Makes me wonder sometimes, "Surely these feelings and emotions are experienced every other day of the year too, right?" I know plenty of people that don't believe in Valentines Day, not that they don't believe in love but just the day itself. They feel it's just a commercialised day geared up to bring in extra money for business. To an extent I'm inclined to agree. It really is a commercialised day, just like Christmas and New Years has become. In fact, if you think about it, any day people celebrate is really commercialised now, isn't it?

I mean Weddings are probably in the top 5 of commercialised days or periods in peoples lives. The industry is so huge now. Almost everyone is a wedding planner, caterer, etc...but does that make the day or days any less special? Nope, I certainly don't think so. A lot of events in our lives are sometimes put on for the benefit of others in my opinion but the main aim is to make it special for the people it's for.

I've probably gone slightly off topic with what I've just said, but the point I'm trying to make is that everything we do these days, particularly special occasions have become commercialised. Valentines Day is definitely one of them. Something I've always thought is "Love Is Forever, Not Just For Valentines Day", yep the title of the blog! What do I mean by that? Well, let me try to explain.....

Love is something that shouldn't be shown one day a year, surely love is shown to your loved ones particularly your partner all year around?! I mean, when you get together with someone, you don't only say "I Love You" on 14th February... If that IS the only day you tell your partner you love them, you have some serious problems!!!!

Over recent years I've become a bit of a cynic when it comes to love, relationships, etc...and I'm sure those that know me have noticed that. However, I do believe Valentines Day has it's benefits too. You're probably thinking "This guys is contradicting himself!!", "You just said Valentines Day is commercialised and a waste of time!", well let me explain what I mean then......!

Valentines Day definitely has it's benefits, particularly if you've admired someone for longer than you can remember and haven't been able to pluck up the courage to tell them how you feel for however long it's been. It's one of those days that almost gives you a free pass to tell the one you've loved from afar, how you really feel about them without major repercussions.

Many people take the plunge on Valentines Day because it's more accepted to do so. It's one of those days that the object of your affection will react well to it. I'm not saying they'll fall head over heals in love with you, well, then again, they may do! What I am saying though, is that, they're less likely to think "what the hell?! buzz off!!". Singletons particularly would just be delighted to know someone thinks of them like that. Speaking as one, I would love it and wouldn't tell someone to buzz off! Then again I wouldn't tell someone to buzz off on a normal day either! haha

Think back to when you were younger, wasn't it easier to tell someone you had a crush on them on Valentines Day more than any other day? I tried it once I think back in school, I made a heart shaped card form some coloured card I had and got my friend to give it to this girl I'd had a crush on for ages. I didn't work out for me, but hey it was a hell of a lot easier saying something on Valentines Day than it would have been the day before or even the day after!

It's also a great day for those normally so engrossed in their working lives as it gives them the opportunity to show their partner how much they love them, it's the one day in the year workaholics probably think "I'm going to make an effort today, I don't usually but I will today". I don't completely agree with it that way but hey, it works for some!

For me personally, Valentines Day has never been a great day and I've believe for a while now that's it's just to commercial. I won't know it though, for some people it's the day they build up courage and share their feelings with the one they love, who didn't know before this day. For those in relationships, don't use Valentines day as an excuse to go out for a meal or to get all lovey dovey and then go back to your unromantic selves the next day love should be forever and we should all make more of an effort tell and show our loved ones how we feel all year round!

So...in summary....If Valentines Day is special for you, then a Very Happy Valentines Day to you...If Valentines Day isn't special for you, a Very Happy Valentines Day to you too!

Just remember.....Love Is Forever, Not Just For Valentines Day....:-)